Peter Pan Syndrome is the unwillingness of
Wondering directionless through the fantastical reality, it’s tough. How can we narrow our vision? There are a lot of books out there that give a similar piece of advice, basically, our “Passions”, with a capital P, are not the end all be all. It turns out that not following your passion is a compelling argument as well. Mainly because passions are usually developed over long periods of time. NOBODY is passionate about something they’ve never done or done for a very short amount of time. Passion is instead cultivated over very long periods of time.
I’m not completely all in with the don’t follow your passion argument, although I see where it’s coming from. People are under the false impression that if you search for long enough, you’ll find that thing that drives you obsessively to success and happiness. This just isn’t true. I’ve met dozens of extremely successful people, and if you ask any one of them if they were convinced from the beginning they were on the right path, they would say no. All of them had doubts, all of them weren’t sure. What they did do is following something that they were interested in, and then nurtured that interest into a passion by amassing a vast amount of knowledge, connections, and resources.
There is great interview of Deleuze talking to a group of students near the end of his life. He describes a specific character found in many great works of literature. This character is often going after something important, they are out to solve a problem, a big problem. And then somewhere along the way they get distracted, someone calls them over, or someone’s house is on fire. The character heads on over to solve this new problem, but in the midst of that problem they start searching for a bigger problem! It is an endless cycle of – I need to solve the problem!
It is Deleuze’s polite way of saying – pick a damn problem and solve it!
Hustle it up!